A unique group finds themselves in a challenging and often overlooked position. These people are part of a demographic known as the Sandwich Generation. They find themselves between caring for their aging parents and supporting their children. 

Balancing these dual roles on top of the rest of life brings with it a myriad of emotional, financial, and physical burdens.

• According to Pew Research, as of 2022, more than half of Americans (54%) in their 40s have a parent age 65+ and are raising a child younger than 18 or having an adult child they helped financially in the past year.

• As of 2023, the Sandwich Generation is 11 million people and will become the fastest-growing employee segment by 2025. AARP says that 1 in 5 adults are now unpaid family caregivers.

As this situation becomes increasingly familiar with the growing demographic, the need for specialized support has never been greater. Supporting the Sandwich Generation is where aging-in-place organizations, such as DSCC, play a pivotal role. They offer hope, possibilities, and practical assistance to those navigating the complexities of caring for loved ones while aging in place and raising children at home or supporting children financially.

Aging-in-place organizations offer services that can significantly lighten the load for the Sandwich Generation and offer a sense of community and understanding that is crucial during difficult and stressful times.

What Is The Sandwich Generation?

Investopedia.com defines the following:

The sandwich generation refers to middle-aged individuals pressured to support aging parents and growing children. The sandwich generation is named so because they are effectively “sandwiched” between the obligation to care for their aging parents—who may be ill, unable to perform various tasks, or need financial support—and children, who require financial, physical, and emotional support.

In 2020, roughly equal shares of sandwiched caregivers were millennials (1981-1996) or Gen Xers (1965-1980). By 2023, the balance had shifted to 66% millennials and 23% Gen X (1965-1980).
In the same three-year span, the gender balance of caregivers tilted, swinging from 64% female and 36% male in 2020 to 55% male and 45% female in 2023.

Overview of the challenges

Feeling squeezed between the demands of raising children and caring for aging parents, the Sandwich Generation faces complex challenges that span their emotional, financial, and logistical lives.

Financially, they try to balance the cost of raising their children, college tuition, retirement planning, and elder care expenses, and time management involves juggling full-time careers with another work shift of caregiving at home.

Emotionally, the financial and time management pressure can take a toll, with the chronic stress of caregiving leading to caregiver burnout. The logistical hurdles of coordinating healthcare services and ensuring home safety for elderly parents add to an already heavy load.

These challenges can’t be looked at in isolation because they are interwoven and impact the well-being of the Sandwich Generation. More and more, a  comprehensive support system is needed, and aging-in-place organizations uniquely position themselves to provide it.

Understanding The Sandwich Generation

The Sandwich Generation is an ever-expanding middle-aged demographic, typically in their 40s and 50s, caught balancing the support of aging parents and growing children. This group navigates the intersection of familial obligations—caring for elderly parents, who live longer while raising young children or supporting adult children.

Facing Specific Challenges: Aging-in-Place Organizations Ease the Burden

Financial Strain

Financial pressures weigh heavily on the Sandwich Generation. They often utilize various strategies to cover caregiving costs, including tapping into personal funds, extra work hours, and even facing significant debts.

• To manage caregiving costs, Sandwich Generation members are paying out of their budget (41%), using the income from the current employment of the individual(s) they care for (28%), and withdrawing from an emergency savings account/rainy day fund (28%).
  • However, looking toward the future, they are expecting to pay for the costs of caregiving by paying out of their budget (34%), working more hours/overtime at their current job (28%), or using the savings or retirement funds of the individual(s) they care for (27%).
• 40% of the Sandwich Generation say they made a financial decision they regret due to mental strain from caregiving.

Time Management

Time management emerges as a critical challenge for the Sandwich Generation, who often struggle to balance the demands of caregiving with personal and professional responsibilities.

Balancing the unpredictable needs of aging parents with the responsibilities of their children and careers, members of this generation find themselves in a constant juggling act.

The daily routine often includes coordinating medical appointments, attending school events, managing household tasks, and fulfilling professional obligations.

The uncertainty of elder care and the demands of parenting and work can lead to an unmanageable schedule. The pressure to accomplish in all these areas can create a perpetual feeling of being stretched too thin and overwrought.

Emotional Stress

Being part of the Sandwich Generation often involves significant emotional stress.

• Role Reversal Stress: Transitioning from being cared for to caring for aging parents can be emotionally challenging.
• Guilt and Anxiety: Balancing the needs of children and elderly parents leads to feelings of guilt and anxiety over not being able to attend to either fully.
• Anticipatory Grief: Watching parents age and their health decline can bring about a sense of loss and grief.
• Neglected Self-Care: Constant caregiving responsibilities can lead to ignoring one’s physical, emotional, and mental health needs.
• Parenting Pressures: Managing the developmental needs of children adds another layer of emotional strain.
• Burnout*: The cumulative effect of these challenges can lead to burnout.*Symptoms of burnout:
  • New feelings of anxiety
  • New symptoms of depression
  • Insomnia or other sleep disturbances, such as sleeping too much
  • Frustration, anger, or irritability that is new
  • Decreased immune response, or getting sick more often and for more extended periods
  • New diagnosis of heart disease
  • Weight gain, weight loss, or other nutritional challenges
  • Withdrawal from friends and family
  • Using unhealthy coping mechanisms such as alcohol or drug abuse to manage stress and daily life

Home Safety

Ensuring the home is safe for an aging family member is a critical concern for the Sandwich Generation.

• Assessing and Modifying the Home: Evaluating the home environment and determining where changes are needed to prevent accidents and enhance accessibility requires some expertise and financial ability.
• Fall Prevention: Identifying and correcting potential fall risks falls on the shoulders of the caregiver and can be exhausting due to constant vigilance.
• Nutrition and Food Safety: Many caregivers plan and prepare meals to ensure dietary needs. This responsibility can be overwhelming for most, but add in the care of children, and days become a daily high-wire act of prioritization and compromise.
• Regular Home Maintenance: On top of assessing and making home modifications, regular home maintenance can escalate from routine tasks to complex projects, demanding time and expertise they often don’t have.
• Social Isolation: Addressing social isolation among older adults is a significant concern for the Sandwich Generation, as it requires time and creative solutions to foster engagement and community connection.

The Sandwich Generation’s many challenges, from financial pressures, time management struggles, emotional stress, home safety concerns, and more, paint a picture of a group under significant strain.

Each of these challenges, though unique, shares a common thread: the need for support and resources. This sets the stage for exploring how aging-in-place organizations can play a crucial role in easing these burdens.

How Aging-in-Place Organizations Lighten the Load

Aging-in-place organizations offer invaluable support to the Sandwich Generation, addressing some of their most pressing challenges like the ones above.

Financial Strain and Emotional Stress:

One of the primary ways these organizations help is by offering services that alleviate financial and emotional pressures. By providing free or subsidized services such as home visits, meal delivery, and access to community programs, they can reduce the financial burden of caregiving. 

These services ensure seniors receive the care and nutrition they need and offer caregivers and older adults emotional relief. Knowing that loved ones are receiving attention and social interaction can significantly ease the emotional stress of caregiving.

Home safety: 

Aging-in-place organizations provide invaluable service and assistance. They can conduct home safety assessments, suggesting modifications to make homes more accessible and safe. This kind of service creates safer living for seniors at home and provides peace of mind for their loved ones.

In addition, they can provide community services such as vetted contractors to keep up with home maintenance, such as repairs and installation such as fixing leaks, installing grab bars, hand and stair railings, window locks, and more.

Aging-in-place organizations extend services beyond immediate care. Their purpose is to provide comfort and the foundation for seniors in their community to live with dignity in their homes. Some of the other services offered by aging-in-place organizations that alleviate the burdens of challenges faced by loved ones include

• Meal delivery
• Community dining
• Well-being checks by phone and in person
• Health and wellness programs
• Pet care and food assistance
• Intergenerational activities

How You Can Get Involved

• Find an organization for your loved one
  You can find your local aging-in-place services through community directories or online searches or contact senior service centers through local government or religious affiliations.

• Volunteer your time
  Offering your time to aging-in-place organizations is always a welcome support. Volunteering may include visiting seniors, helping with home modifications, or assisting in administrative duties. Your time can significantly enhance the quality of services provided by these organizations.

• Offering financial contributions
  Donations to these organizations can support their programs, from meal delivery to transportation services and more. Any financial support can help sustain and expand their offerings.

• Advocating for policies
  Advocating on the local or national level for policies that support aging-in-place helps to raise awareness about the importance of these services for those aging in place and ease the burden on their loved ones.

• Sharing your expertise
  If you have professional healthcare, social work, or home repair skills, offer your expertise. These organizations often need specialized knowledge to support their programs effectively.

The Sandwich Generation is an ever-expanding middle-aged demographic, typically in their 40s and 50s, caught balancing the support of aging parents and growing children. This group navigates the intersection of familial obligations—caring for elderly parents, who live longer while raising young children or supporting adult children.

A Final Thought

Engaging with aging-in-place organizations through your time and financial contributions can significantly help lessen the load for seniors living at home and their dedicated caregivers.

With each volunteer hour, every financial contribution, and through advocacy and sharing expertise, you contribute to a more robust support system that makes a tangible difference by easing the burden felt by seniors who need the help and their families who love them.

So, seek opportunities to assist and become part of the essential network that upholds our community’s well-being. Your involvement doesn’t just help—it’s a lifeline that ensures our seniors are cared for and their caregivers feel less strain.

Every action counts.

If you feel called to be part of this compassionate community effort, contact DSCC today to see how you can make a difference.